Unfortunately, in the United States there are very little options for commuting. The busses are unreliable and lift services are expensive. You can carpool with coworkers and friends to avoid driving if you want to take the burden off your husband or bike while it's warm if you can. Or try to find something you like about driving. I was terrified of driving when I was learning, and I hated doing it until I started using it as a time to just jam out and listen to my favorite songs. I really do wish we had other options, but it might help to find something you could like about it and focus on that. For example: You'll be more independent. You'll have time to yourself. Your own space. You can go to all your favorite places whenever you want to. Something like that. Hope that helps!

I’m going through the same thing right now. I got my license years ago but I have crippling anxiety about driving and have never driven by myself. It’s my worst fear but I know I’ll need to do it and my mom gets so mad at me saying I’m lazy and don’t care about being independent. Just thinking about it makes me anxious bc of the danger aspect…I don’t trust my driving skills since i’ve barely practiced and made mistakes during my lessons and something could happen at any time. With other things, it’s okay if you make a mistake, but that doesn’t apply to driving. I think that’s what makes me so nervous about it. I also don’t have anyone to practice with and my mom has a new luxury car that I’m afraid of driving.

I'm in the same boat. I'm 22, got my permit at 18, have barely driven at all and don't fully know how, just have a general idea. I was always terrified of driving a two ton death machine 70 mph down a highway (in my mind). Then, when I was walking around my tiny neighborhood dissociating (in a good way) and contemplating life and wanting to just be alone, I finally felt the push to drive for the first time. So I could be independent and go places and make my life so much easier. Don't drive until you're comfortable doing so, and maybe like someone else said you can find something you enjoy about it to think of instead. But unfortunately, unless you move somewhere where walking and biking are options, or carpooling with coworkers/friends, maybe a bus or something, you will have to drive in the US if you don't want to go completely broke on rideshares. I wish you the best of luck in whatever happens, and know you're not alone, and that yes, it does suck. ❤️

I got my license at 38, I was terrified to drive but I wanted to be able to be independent more so I started slow sat behind the wheel until the panic was tolerable then short drives until I felt ready to get on a bigger road. I may be able to drive on the highway but I still get nervous

Could you find trusted friends and neighbors to make a plan and give call yo when you need them? Or even hire someone who would be willing to e on stand by? If the bottom line is not to drive or minimally, some creative thought may be the way to go! 💕