I have depression, ADHD, PTSD. I was watching a TikTok live at around 4am and a girl in the comments wanted someone to talk to, and I see that she added me. I add her back, and she messages me asking if we could FaceTime. I say sure because she might be suixical. We FaceTime and she is who she says she is and is really nice. She just starts trauma-dumping me for a hour and I barely say anything. She has SO MUCH TRAUMA. When I say I need to sleep she says, “Text you later.” I really don’t feel comfortable keeping this relationship because it’s so triggering. I don’t want to hurt her feelings. What do I do?


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  • Lilith420


    Try just mentally being there for her and don’t end the relationship just yet. Tell her how you feel on the subject.

  • UnluckyUnicorn


    I would tell her you find it triggering and you don’t want to talk about it. If she doesn’t respect that then just cut your losses. The best thing is to be honest. Some people will have hurt feelings but you need to take care of yourself and do what’s best for you. You’re not mean for wanting what is good for your mental health

  • Meghan40694


    Exactly. I volunteered as a online crisis counselor for a few years and If there’s one thing we learned it’s how important self care is! Explaining your going through a lot yourself and wish her the best but don’t think your in the right mental space to help her is completely ok! ❤️

  • trail_happy


    I decided I will see if she messages me at all and if she does I will do what @UnluckyUnicorn said.

  • nita


    good lord dude just leave- you guys just met and you don’t owe her your emotional energy

  • Shimari


    Trauma dumping is a bad way to communicate but she at least is trying to convey that she’s not in an okay mindset. If she is not currently getting therapy then you NEED to tell her that’s what she needs to do because she is not helping herself like that

  • CourageGurl1219


    Be honest and suggest a hotline or something else. Also, let her know that you have to take care of yourself. It may seem “selfish” but you have to focus on what’s best for you.

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