Struggling with a Controlling Ex-Boyfriend

❤️St strong. you need to good about yourself. it will be a long journey but I learnt the hard way to cut toxic people out of my life that included my mother. its hard as our brains say we are in the wrong or we should understand but no we all deserve to be respected and loved. I used to think ill live the rest of my life alone as I had to many demons but I found the one to hold it all together with me. be strong within yourself x love yourself. I still don't ever day. his issues is his issues don't let anyone make you feel like its your fault. self care my dear. take this time to find you xx always here if you need a chat

I'm so sorry love. You can't deal with people like that. Just try to stay strong and know that it's not your fault.

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Sounds like he was abusive and manipulative. I think everyone else on this thread said it pretty well, I know it’s easier said than done but putting yourself first is a must. Feeling guilty for it is natural given what you just came out of but it will pass, and with practice it’ll get easier to move on, grow, and love yourself. ❤️

You had an attachment him its normal to feel what you are feeling but always remember you broke up with him for a reason you could feel it don't go backwards noone is worth losing your own happiness over. Time to find you again and never let anyone change you for their own gain.time to shine

I am so so proud of you for taking care of yourself and getting out of that situation! You deserve the same love and care that you put into the relationship. There is zero excuse for treating another person like they are undeserving of love. Any kind of abuse can take some time to heal from, be gentle and patient with yourself. Now is your time to thrive. 💜

Just because someone is suicidal doesn't mean you should feel the need to settle for someone who treats you badly ‼️

I’m really sorry you have been going through all of this as well😞🫶🏽

You absolutely did the right thing. That is emotional manipulation, and you are right to cut and run. Run far and run fast.

No matter how good for you it is there is still grief. Do not give in to the grief and get back with them tho. *hug* you got a whole community here to talk to.

Someone else's mental state is not your responsibility. It's not an excuse. It's not a reason. It's not a 'out of jail free' ticket. Someone else's mental state is just that. Their mental state. You had to get out of there. He was controlling and either abusive or on the way to it. He continuously told you *you* were in the wrong - how could you not feel guilty with that cycle burrowed into your head? You did the right thing. You had to walk away for your safety. His isn't your responsibility anymore. Now you can grieve, and eventually heal. I'm proud of you. It's hard walking away from something like that.

See that just shows you you are truly a strong person. You are worthy of being treated with respect

You feel bad because he had control over your mind. Never feel bad for sticking up for yourself. If someone truly loves you they will accept you the way you are and not try to change you. And no partner should ever be lecturing you about anything especially your behavior. As adults if you have a problem with your partner then you sit down and have an adult discussion you don't lecture or yell at them like they are and unruly child. I'm glad you're away from this person, trust me I was in a mentally abusive relationship for over 20 years and it has a messed me up but I'm fighting to get my whole self back. Stand strong, you are better off alone than with someone who mistreat you or disrespects you. I'm always here hit me up anytime day or night. And chin up things will get better. Rediscover things you enjoy doing and put your time and energy into doing that and screw thinking about them and feeling bad.

You should watch Jaden Animations video called "relationships", https://youtu.be/4H9jTQKmR3Q. The reason you feel bad is because he emotionally manipulated you. He made you feel guilt and that it was your fault even though he wad in the wrong. He wouldn't accept that what he did was bad and that he was in the wrong.

Feel free to message me I'm so sorry your going through this x