how do you deal with dating and trying to find someone while trying to deal with your condition I have reoccurring abscess and its really hard to feel confident I'm in my 30s and I feel I missed out on so much of my 20s from just constantly being fatigued and in pain and never gettin remission

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Crohn's Disease (IBD) Inflammatory Bowel Disease

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  • CrohnsyPoo


    My first flare up happened when I was engaged to be married to a man who didn't know what he was getting into. He's still the man of my dreams and we've been together for almost 8 years now. I was the kind of girl who would never use the bathroom with the door open, let alone let any man know that I can pass never ever. And would scold men who would do that comfortably around me. Having Crohn's has made me more comfortable with myself, because it's much better to laugh at your own fart sounds than to shame yourself. My recommendation is to seek like minded partner...not someone you would've wanted before your condition. Someone who gets you where you're at today and you get them. There's so many kind people who don't need to have lots of sex in the first stages of dating or don't mind being canceled on because you aren't feeling well (would probably love to kick it with you on the couch and watch a movie instead). There's going to be people you date who don't get it ...done blame them but do let them go. Just like how someone who doesnt have kids, might not want to date someone who does. But then some people live the idea of dating a partner with kids even though they themselves don't have any. The right partner for you will enjoy knowing that they get you, and that they can actually help prove your world and make you feel more loved by providing you with what you really need. And that fills them with joy.

  • CrohnsyPoo


    And I was 30 years old when I was diagnosed with Crohn's.

  • Goos3


    hey! new here, so I’m in my 20s now and I def feel like I’ve missed entire years just sleeping and going to the bathroom and going to appointments. It can feel extra intimidating and unknown out there after that. I’ve been seeing someone for a few months now and I never brought up having Crohn’s (I usually don’t feel like it’s necessary for me to talk about right now unless it comes up but I’ll always answer questions). Anyway, they ended up taking me to the ER for something else and found out there that I have crohn’s. Then we talked about it later, turns out one of their best friends also has Crohn’s, and we had a laugh about how my heart eyes for Pete Davidson make more sense now. You’ll be okay with someone who cares about you <3 I’ll also say that I found this person after a few intense months of really trying to understand myself mentally, seeing a therapist, and just growin ! I’ve started treating myself like more of a best friend and everything gets a lot easier from there

  • Cheyenne_Marie


    Hey! I’m 24, & I’ve had Crohn’s for almost a year now, & I can say that it is difficult to have a relationship with someone who doesn’t understand your condition. My boyfriend is in the army, but he is only 4 hours away from me so I go visit quite often, but sometimes my Crohn’s decides to flare up. He is the only one that knows how to deal with it due to his mom having Crohn’s as well. He is more comfortable taking care of me due to that experience with his mother. But honestly this is the best relationship I’ve been in because I don’t have to worry about judgement or misunderstandings due to me not feeling good because he understands it all. & even though he’s busy with the army, he still manages to reach out whenever I have appointments or surgeries to see how I’m doing. 💜

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