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RainbowMommy18

493d

so I've been repeatedly informed that it's only abuse if ur being punched, if ur being hit it doesn't count so if they r hitting u or repeatedly slamming their legs on u hurting u and u hit them back then that counts and ur the bad guy. so after repeatedly telling him to stop for days I finally hit his arm which counted when it doesn't count unless he punches me but I'm the bad guy for hitting him and for him leaving after he's been drinking. to make it worse my 4yr old sees all this and I'm chewed out for standing up for myself they don't see they r showing her it's ok for a woman to get hit as long as she's not punched. she's just turned 4 and I'm having to get her tested for autism. how can they want a lil girl thinking this is ok? there maybe ppl on here asking y don't I leave at this point cause if I leave or cops get involved either way they will make me look like the bad guy and take my daughter. my daughter clings to me to the point she even thinks I left her she will have a full blown melt down. it's sad but I'm staying miserable just so I can make sure nothing takes me from her. I'll die before I let anything separate us and I actually fear it may one day come to that.

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    • Laellaxe

      432d

      I know leaving is hard. People don't understand. There are resources. I recommend going to the library or something if you can so your activity is safe. And go to thehotline.org. You need shelter, a lawyer, protection, and counseling for you and your child. I don't know how severe the abuse in your situation goes as far as him monitoring your technology or tracking your whereabouts, but please be careful. You and your baby deserve better, and you should not feel ashamed for defending yourself. Leaving is dangerous, but don't give up.

    • Laellaxe

      432d

      I know leaving is hard. People don't understand. There are resources. I recommend going to the library or something if you can so your activity is safe. And go to thehotline.org. You need shelter, a lawyer, protection, and counseling for you and your child. I don't know how severe the abuse in your situation goes as far as him monitoring your technology or tracking your whereabouts, but please be careful. You and your baby deserve better, and you should not feel ashamed for defending yourself. Leaving is dangerous, but don't give up.

    • ScottishSea

      432d

      I had no idea, I thought any abuse counted .. verbal, mental,

    • AnimalBoy

      432d

      The definition of abuse is an action that intentionally causes harm or injures another person. This can refer to physical abuse, psychological abuse, mental abuse, or child abuse. Any action. Self defense however does not count and can be used as a legal defense for any intentional injury you caused to a person trying to injure you. He wants you to feel like you're the bad guy and it's your fault but it's not and if he doesn't want you to act in self defense he shouldn't be acting in a way that you have to defend yourself against him or face being hurt.

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