Why Can't I Ask People to Do Simple Things?

If someone is coming in to your house, you most definitely have the right to ask them to remove their shoes. It actually isn't as uncommom as one may think. Maybe put up a sign at your front door that ask people to remove their shoes. You could either buy it online or make your own.

I just recently had to set boundaries and the pushback from my brain was strong, so I totally get it. Just know, maybe you _can_ handle the pushback. ❤️ Pushback for me looks like, ‘if I don’t overdrive my kindness, there’s no proof I’m kind’ or ‘they’ll judge me and they’ll disappear’ Absolutely obscene when I look at the pushback the next day! I hope that helps. It didn’t help me until I started getting support from this app, actually, but it helped a lot to recognize that my thoughts/fears aren’t fact

I'm a people pleaser myself so I struggled with the same thing.

I'm sorry you feel that way 😔 maybe try saying something like "if you want to take off your shoes you can leave them...(whereveryou keep your shoes)" it's not a request then and they have the option to say no if they feel that strongly about it

Hey your house your rules. Try to be congenial and friendly when asking.