poodlelover28

149d

I don't know what to do anymore. My fiancée has been pulling back for a couple of months now. She doesn't give me attention anymore. Instead she just watches TV and looks at her phone until she goes to sleep. We used to cuddle, kiss, and look at each other leaving an open window to talk about our days or anything bugging us. Now I have to beg for her attention and it just doesn't feel right. I shouldn't have to constantly ask for attention, right? And she says she wants me to initiate sex too but every time I do she always has an excuse. They're valid but something's always up. Either she has a headache or a stomach ache or she's too tired. I'm tired of trying all the time to just get turned down. And she wants me to initiate by making out instead of asking but how can I make out with her when she's glued to her phone all night? She used to text me first everyday because I sleep in but now she doesn't text me unless I text her first. I've had several conversations with her about her pulling back and she always gets super defensive. What can I do? My feelings are really hurt. We're supposed to be trying for a baby soon too. I'm female if that matters at all.

Depression

Bipolar Disorder

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

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  • jam064

    149d

    Yikes that's rough. I'd suggest trying relationship counseling first. And definitely don't try for a baby until this issue is worked out.

    • poodlelover28

      149d

      thank you for the advice! I really appreciate it!

  • PsychoGamer44

    149d

    I agree with Jam, definately seek couples counseling and wait on trying for a baby till you guys are actually on the same page with everything.

    • poodlelover28

      149d

      thank you for the advice! It means a lot to me!

  • Knotless1133

    149d

    I agree with the person who also suggested counseling. I wish I did that for me and my ex. I feel like a lot of things would of been different. It never hurts to try. Even if you guys try it and it doesn’t work, at least you know you did your part 💗💗.

    • poodlelover28

      149d

      I'm scared she wouldn't agree to counseling.

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