a friend of my boyfriend's was....very inappropriate tonight. his hugs were too frequent and lingered too long. he ran his and down my back nearly to my butt. He caressed my breasts at the end of a hug. I thought I was high (weed) and imagining something bt then he did it again. I put off don't make me stab you vibes and he backed off but it was very very uncomfortable. he knows I'm madly in love with his friend. why would he he try something? my boyfriend was there so I was in no danger but holy hell does it put me in a weird position. do I say something? or just let it go and remember to never ever be alone with this man. if I say something my bf WILL confront his friend and it could get weird. what if he doesn't believe me? what if im making too much out of this?
Anxiety (Including GAD)
I would tell your bf, you're not over thinking it, that is hella weird , definitely don't be alone with this guy ever , you can even go as far as not showing up if you know he's ganna be there. If your bf doesn't believe you then it's time for a new bf
Talk to your BF. Don't be around this guy alone for any reason. He may like you and is jealous that his friend found you first.. whatever the reason he acted like that it's not ok. (You know if your chest is being touched) Just have a talk with your BF he should do the right thing for you. I hope everything works out for you.
ty. I know he is lonely and doesn't understand why my guy has someone and he doesn't. I never thought he would try something like this tho.
Tell your bf and tell this guy to knock that Sh!t off. That is not appropriate behavior and you are not comfortable with it. And tell him to never to it again.
Your boyfriend should cut him off. This could be considered a mild form of sexual assault and your boyfriend needs to defend you here. Also why didn’t he step in during the moment?
he didn't see what happened. His friend was very careful to make sure he didn't see him, and I was too creeped out in the moment to say anything. It was unreal like I had to of been imagining it or something. But I wasn't. :(
If I tell my bf he will absolutely say something and make sure it never happens again. I'm hoping it was a one time weird fluke that will never happen again.
don't even chance it to be a one time fluke ... stop it immediately tell your bf
I’m my opinion his friend crossed such a serious line that your boyfriend should cut him off. This isn’t just talk with the friend and hope he stops. Like he’s proved he’s a disgusting person and your boyfriend should not stay friends with someone like that. Especially because the friend did so many sexually not okay things.
It's considered sexual assault in the United States if anyone touches you sexually against your will. And sexual touching can be breast and butt touching.
he is usually so cautious with things like this too. He is even careful about flirting because he doesn't want to step over a line (with single unattached women I mean, he doesn't generally flirt with me)
I definitely let it be known that this is not ok and will not be tolerated. If he ever even thinks about stepping over that line I will tell my guy.
If you’re feeling too anxious to open up fully to him, I would at least tell your boyfriend that you do not want to be alone with his friend for any amount of time, at any point. If he asks why, you can always tell him that you’re feeling too insecure or anxious to explain why just yet. Maybe you can leave a note for him explaining. You can even write down that you want him to answer in a note as well, so you can look at it when you’re ready. Good luck!! I’m sorry his friend turned out to be like that and do such awful things to you. You don’t deserve to put in such an uncomfortable, stressful situation. 😞
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