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Struggling in an Abusive Relationship

Sparkie

679d

I have been in a relationship with a highly suspected narcissistic abusive manipulator for almost 9 years. It's progressively gotten worse over the last few years, the ones we have been moved out for. My anxieties have been sky high about myself and how I interact with people. It has reached an all time low for me and I'm struggling. I want to leave the relationship... but I'm now in a place where I can't kick him out easily because of a recent diagnosis requiring a medication that makes me financially unstable without him in current situations... I feel like I've lost my identity. I feel like I've lost my voice. And I didn't have the person there for me that I needed in a time of need when they were right there. Sorry for the rant.

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    • wise

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      @Sparkie if your family is willing to support you, take them up on it. you CAN'T do this, not on your own, and you need to get help fast before it's too late. let go of the idea that being unable to do something on your own is somehow shameful, you're a human person who is not only very fallible by nature, you're also coming out of 9 years of brainwashing. it's not shameful to need help

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    • led_everclear

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      What really helped me when I was dealing with narcissist abuse I learned that narcissists turn people into narcissist, cause no one is born a narcissist but what my solution is , is start writing in a journal to identify your emotions and articulate them so you know your habits , your patterns . Just try to do this and you will see the difference but you gotta put effort

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    • Sparkie

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      I have a recent diagnosis of CVID, and I just found out my medication is $1200 a month which I feel will be a stressor

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    • StripedTurtle

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      Hi Sparkie, I have extensive experience in toxic relationships and complex medical issues. If you dont mind me asking what is the medical diagnosis and treatment your on for it that causes you to be financially instable?

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    • wise

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      Are you married? Or do you live in a state that recognizes common law marriages? You may be able to take him to court, but whether or not you can, you should be applying for disability benefits anyway. Do you have family who can support financially until you're back on your feet?

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      • Sparkie

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        @wise no I am not married to him. My family is more than willing to support and I'm very grateful for that, but I also have anxiety surrounding that because I don't want to have my family think I can't do this. I also am unsure if I'm able to apply for disability, I haven't looked into it but that's a good idea

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        • wise

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          @Sparkie if your family is willing to support you, take them up on it. you CAN'T do this, not on your own, and you need to get help fast before it's too late. let go of the idea that being unable to do something on your own is somehow shameful, you're a human person who is not only very fallible by nature, you're also coming out of 9 years of brainwashing. it's not shameful to need help

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