Struggling to Explain My Gender Identity to My Mom

Is it ok for her to ask that kind of question? I'd say yes. It seems to me that she's just trying to understand what you are feeling and maybe trying to adapt to change. Remember, our parents are from a different generation where people weren't as open as they are now and might not understand so give her time and patience. My mom had difficulty understanding my identity as well at first so it's normal.🤗

It's very hard to explain how it feels to be transgender to a cis person, but it's not unreasonable for them to ask. If you're not comfortable talking about it, then explain that and she should respect that decision. As for explaining the feeling, what kinda worked for my mom was a combo of asking her to imagine that she looked so much like a man that everyone assumed she was one and asking her to imagine the discomfort she would feel if she successfully completed the entire process of transitioning, and understanding that's where I'm starting at. There's also bringing up gender euphoria, where as currently doing traditionally feminine things makes her happy, doing traditionally masculine things makes you haply