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Livingasazebra

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Since my best friend hasn’t got this app I feel I can vent freely here without feeling nervous she’ll see it. I’m questioning my sexuality recently. I’m either straight or bi. I’ve told my mum and my bestie. So you might be wondering why I don’t want her to see this post right? But that’s bc I kinda have a small crush on her. At least I think I might. We’re very touchy with each other (she’s just mucking about) she’s very straight and has expressed it multiple times while I’ve been open ended because I’ve been on and off questioning slightly (not very seriously until now). The other night we went to a restaurant and she put her hand on my thigh (mucking about to show me how her friends tease each other) and I got a bit turned on and obviously didn’t want to show her so the second time she tried to do it I pushed her hand away on instinct. I felt really awkward bc I can’t show that I felt something when she did it. Things like this have been happening like I’ll sweat when I’m holding her hand, and sometimes I’ll think she’s hot and my view on her changes to something other than platonic. She’s my bestie for life and I won’t be telling her any of this, ever. But I felt I needed to say this somewhere just as a discussion so if u did read all of this pls comment I would really appreciate it bc this is extremely confusing and stressful to keep from someone who I normally tell everything. I’m not certain I’m bisexual atm I’m bicurious. I can’t actually see myself in an intimate sexual relationship with a girl but maybe that’s bc I genuinely haven’t questioned it or thought seriously about it idk. But any support is welcomed with open arms pls 💜

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    • Livingasazebra

      386d

      @Marzie aww thank you sm I will defo keep this in mind! 💗 I’m thinking maybe I’m biromantic rn as the sexual moments are very rare and I couldn’t see me acc doing anything extremely intimate but I do like being very touchy like hugging, holding hands)

    • Marzie

      386d

      You might wanna do some research on pansexuality or demisexuality 😊 I had always considered myself straight until I realized my attraction towards people is not dependent on gender at all but instead other factors like personal connection and their overall personality. You can be attracted to someone who happens to be a woman without being attracted to all women, and that's okay!! For me it's like when I'm attracted to someone as a person, I'm also attracted to whatever body parts they have, it just kinda comes along with it. It took me years to figure out that I was pan, for the longest time I just thought "everyone must be a little gay right?" but apparently that's not the case 😂 I think if you can't necessarily see yourself in a sexual relationship with women but you are sexually attracted to this specific woman (and could see yourself in an intimate relationship with that specific person) then it could be one of those two sexualities. I'm really sorry you have to keep all of this from the person you are closest with 😥 we are here to listen!!

      • Livingasazebra

        386d

        @Marzie aww thank you sm I will defo keep this in mind! 💗 I’m thinking maybe I’m biromantic rn as the sexual moments are very rare and I couldn’t see me acc doing anything extremely intimate but I do like being very touchy like hugging, holding hands)

    • faustmare

      388d

      So wait, she knows you're bicurious and is teasing you? When she knows she's straight?

      • Livingasazebra

        388d

        @faustmare she’s always done it for nearly 2 years of our friendship it’s just mucking about bc we’re both naturally touchy but I’m starting to catch feelings and now it’s getting awkward for me

        • tjazz

          387d

          @Livingasazebra still if you told her you are questioning your sexuality and she's still actively doing that.... that isn't cool. At all. Mucking about or not. That's cruel

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It's completely normal to feel confused and stressed while questioning your sexuality. It's important to give yourself time to explore and understand your feelings. Remember that you don't have to label yourself immediately, and it's okay to be bicurious or unsure. It's great that you're reaching out for support and discussing your feelings, as this can help you process your emotions and gain clarity.

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