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Bobsmom

670d

How do you handle not being able to do all you want to?

    • MaryC

      658d

      I have myself a good cry when things get too much. šŸ˜„ There are allot of things I can't do & I get upset about it. I try to stay positive & think about what I can do, but that doesn't always work. I make sure to tell my family how much I appreciate them. But, who am I kidding? I have not been handling my emotions well at all since I broke my leg. I have been keeping to myself allot, crying allot & just all around being crabby. I force myself to talk about it but that doesn't really help. My doctor increased my zoloft to counteract the side affects of cyclobenzaprine. I have been disabled since 2008 & breaking my leg just compounds everything into a raging ball of fury. I wish I had the magical answer to your question but in the end you have to find what makes you happy & find alternatives to what you are not able to do. For example, if you can't stand up long enough to cook then look into getting a stool or chair on wheels for the kitchen. Really, if you are creative & willing there are ways around things.

    • Cece7

      659d

      Itā€™s been hard for me because Iā€™ve always been someone who wanted to travel the world but Iā€™m terrified of heights and planes and struggling to even drive far from my house right now. Hopefully someday I heal and can have some fun with my life

    • Captain_Marvel

      659d

      Decide what it is you really want to do then do it what ever it takes make it happen mine is being in good physical and mental health exercise stretching cardio eating clean daily

    • Sleak67

      660d

      I grieve lately. I just want my functional quality of life back. I try hard to stay strong warrior. I'm hoping I'm candidate for deep brain surgery and get my life back. Just have to stay positive and strong. Plus great caregiver that's fun is a plus for me

    • Harvey78

      663d

      Not very well. šŸ˜„

    • BrieMarie

      668d

      It's so hard to limit activities but it's the only way I cope. Like this weekend for instance there was a family reunion, a rodeo and an air show. I wanted to do all 3. I focused on the reunion and being present with my family. I ended up opting out of the rodeo that night and air show the next day. I spent my Sunday resting and rehydrating. Some days I feel left out and depressed. I allow myself to feel the frustration and try to plan a less demanding activity.

    • Faithhope

      668d

      The Me that wants to do all the things I used to do fights with the Me who says just sit there and do nothing.

    • Rho

      668d

      I get pretty aggravated having to shorten my to-do list to sometimes half or more or best yet, forget part of the to-dos. (High five on that-not!) I know Iā€™m not 25 anymore, Iā€™m just not a fan of being reminded of it everyday.

    • stargazer27

      668d

      This is my biggest issue right now. I was always on the go. And now I can barely make it through a day of work. Then to come home to cook dinner etc..... it's dreadful!!!

    • Butterfly9937

      669d

      Years ago, I used to get all bummed out because I was always on the go. I was always meeting deadlines at work and school. Plus I was a full time mom to 2 small children. I also took care of 2 ailing parents. I had to put me on the back burner. I pushed when i didnā€™t have it in me to push. I was HALTED one day. All of sudden, I woke up one morning with pains in both sides. I couldnā€™t move. I couldnā€™t move from the waist down. I had to have help to the bathroom and everything. Long story short I spent a month in the hospital. I had to learn to walk again and learn to do everyday living skills all over in rehab. I had to Learn to Ask for and Accept help. That was hard for me. I was the helper, the mender, the lender, the leader, etcā€¦ Try to focus on what you Can do. Let today take care of today!! Delegate if you can! Family and friends are more than happy to help more than you know. Take good care of yourself!!

    • Lani_Girl

      669d

      Pace your self!!!!

      • NanN

        668d

        @Lani_Girl ~ That one... pacing myself, is the hardest thing. When I actually have a good day, I want to do all the things. Just know that we are all with you, even if our symptoms aren't the same. When you feel yourself getting overwhelmed, just think about those of us who are going through some if the same problems. You always have a place at this table.

        • Mop

          668d

          @NanN oh my gosh yes, whenever I wake up feeling alright I get so excited and start doing so much and then by afternoon I'm regretting

    • ShoobyDoobyDoo91

      669d

      It's hard. Not gonna lie I struggle with the fact I can't work or clean or have fun the way I should beable to at this age. I also should have a family by now I feel. But I also don't want children as I'm just as happy with my fur kids. (Sally the chug and Louie the special needs Chihuahua) someday it's harder than others but I try to see what I can actually do as good do you know what I mean? Having a hard time explaining it. Sorry.

    • Izzy94

      669d

      It takes a lot of baby steps It may seem very silly but baby steps, Iā€™ve learned the hard way the bc of my anxiety disorder and ADHD I have to work my way up to get to where I need to be Itā€™s about taking a deep breathe and appreciating yourself for getting there

      • VariaMoon

        663d

        @Izzy94 this is trueā€¦. Iā€™m just so tired of freaking baby stepsā€¦. Feels like a never ending treadmill from H e double hockey sticks. Lol

        • Izzy94

          663d

          @VariaMoon Oh trust!! There are days where it feels so easy to do so you go for it, mess up, panic, go through the baby steps to reassure yourself and then panic again bc you made a mistake - itā€™s never ending šŸ™ƒ but Iā€™d rather stick with what works makes me feel secure and slow so that I can correct as I go and not panic Iā€™m 27 itā€™s taken me 12 years to learn that šŸ™„

    • Mop

      669d

      Struggling with this as well, don't have any advice yet, but you're not alone. Feel free to reach out if you want to vent or anything

    • Drewsdad08

      669d

      I donā€™t handle it. Just try to cope. I mowed my small yard this morning and Iā€™m so tired I just want to lay down

    • 1Jonesy

      669d

      I've learned to give up tasks to family or friends and just be. I am a mother of 3 and not able to be out as much as I used to. Just overall feeling exhausted sucks but the days I can I enjoy movement and being outside in the sun I do. Just take it one day at a time. šŸ’•

    • VariaMoon

      669d

      It just blows. Every single day.

    • dream6284

      670d

      It's hard and you will overdo it and do the things but you'll learn. Your body will teach you what you can and can't do

      • Bobsmom

        670d

        @dream6284 itā€™s the canā€™t do I have trouble with. It is hard. Thank you

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