Feeling Abandoned When My FP Goes Out Without Me

Yes, it makes me feel so horrible because I know realistically they’re not trying to hurt me or abandon me but that’s just such a fear of mine and whenever they go off to be around other people I get upset and anxious. It makes me feel so irrational because we even plan on living/traveling together so I know that they want to be near me long term, but even the little things just feel like a punch in the gut

i always get incredibly anxious, and my entire world reduces itself down to that moment, like tunnel vision. and the only way to get out of that moment is to hear from my fp. i hear you and understand you. the important thing to remember is that feelings don’t last. your fp will not be out for the rest of eternity. it’s easier said than done, i know. <3

I don’t even know how to cope with it I usually just cry about it and let it out and let the emotions pass through even tho I know there is really no reason for me to be crying and that they are allowed to go places on their own and have their own life.

Oh yes extremely in several different areas do I feel like that. I feel like that when they are talking to someone else or or if they do something to make me feel left out or if they move to a different area but still going to be living close by but the worst of that feeling of all is just losing them as a whole. If it’s a break up it’s the legit end of the world. Like it feels like my whole world just came crashing down and that I can’t live without that person.

yes and i don’t even know how to deal with it :(( it’s the hardest thing ever for me

Oh yes for sure. I already experience loneliness at a high degree, and being without someone for a while really gets at me. But with my fp, I feel like I can barely last two hours without some form of reassuring contact from them or I freak out. But all in the same time I feel like if I reach out in that anxious state, I’ll annoy them and they could be upset by it. BPD is hard.