Getting Back to Dilators After a Cheating Partner

Thank you. I really appreciate your comments.

Also, yes, I've stopped and started again with dilators. It did take me shorter amount of time to move up since I'd done it before, but everyone is different. My partner is my biggest supporter when it comes to doing my PT/dilators, and not just because he wants to have PIV sex. I hope the next person you're with is supportive and encouraging to you.

There are good partners out there for sure, I'm sorry you had to deal with one who cheated. I know how that feels. Please know that the only ones to blame for the cheating are the people that cheated. Even if they said it was because of your experience with vaginismus, it was ultimately their choice and is their responsibility alone. I might look for a support group or therapist that specializes in vaginismus if that's accessible to you. The emotional healing after being cheated on and abused is so necessary when trying to heal. I wish you the best. ❤️

This is really encouraging. Thank you 💕

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I’ve only been dealing with vaginismus for a few years. It started right after I got married. It took me months of using dilators and relaxing kegel exercises before I could have intercourse without pain. But it still flares up and also gets worse when I’m anxious or stressed. My partner has been very supportive. I had issues with sex emotionally before the vaginismus came about. I would get anxious and feel guilt and shame. So my partner already had to be understanding of that. So when it did happen I was very upset and he told me that sex wasn’t more important than I was. Penetration isn’t the only way people can be physically intimate and I think being with someone who is willing to be patient and flexible is important. I definitely believe you will be able to find love again. Sending love and strength and support ❤️