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Struggling with PTSD after being molested at work

ShoobyDoobyDoo91

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So at 17 I was molested by a man I worked with which caused my ptsd I have not been able to hold down a job since then.....people think it was my fault....how was it my fault he took advantage of my trust....he had a knife and I knew it so I stood there out of body wishing it would stop. yeah it wasn't rape but it wrecked my world. am I crazy and it is my fault?

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    • Kairi

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      I’m so sorry that happened it was NOT your fault at all

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    • shakie

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      Not your fault. Never was. People can be awful and judgemental. I'm so sorry you went through that. 😥

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    • Belugabear

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      So I have an ex boyfriend who didn’t I Ferrand the word no. I still feel like it was my fault. Especially since I wasn’t raped, but I was sexually assaulted. It doesn’t feel serious enough to make a big deal over, especially since we were dating. I know it’s a different situation, but I understand some of what you’re going through. It took me a while to get to this point, but not it’s not your fault. Assault never is. I cannot get over my hatred of people who make us feel crazy and blame us. Know that I am with you and always here to talk. It feels like the world is coming down around you, but it will get better. Talking to people who understand helps. I spent too long avoiding it. Seriously, I’m here if we need me. Message me any time.

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    • abbs0912

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      It doesn't matter if it wasn't rape. Assault is assault and no matter what is done, it's extremely traumatizing. Any level of it can ruin a life. Your pain is valid, and it's absolutely not your fault.

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    • thatweirdspice

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      it is NOT your fault, and no you are not crazy

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    • ElizabethJune

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      If he molested you then yeah. That is rape. Also it is not your fault. A lot of people in society especially people who have never been through something like that tend to blame person who has and label you as a liar because they can't handle and don't want to accept the reality of it all. Also the abuser/ assailant will try to blame you and play the victim to cover up what they did. That's just what abusers do. Most abusers who do things like that are either narcissists, psychopaths or sociopaths and playing the victim and denying responsibility for their actions is a common tactic used by narcissists. You are not alone. I was also molested by my uncle from the time I was 12 years old until I was 24. When I finally exposed him he also did what most abusers do. He denied ever touching me and depicted me as a liar and even tried to pull the race card on me and play the victim. Thankfully he is in prison. So it's not your fault. You actually did the right thing by reporting the incident. It takes a lot of courage to do that too. You are also very brave for opening up about it here on this chat.

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      • ShoobyDoobyDoo91

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        @ElizabethJune The police were called on the man that molested me at work and they took his side cus I was 17....he told them we were dating....I was 17 and he was my father's age...38. They believed him over me. So he got to work for 2 weeks when I was out of work without pay til they let him go. After that I wasn't treated good there and I sadly had to leave there I loved working there but couldn't take being treated like shit and being made to eat lunch and take my breaks in a closet where we kept stock.

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        • ElizabethJune

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          @ShoobyDoobyDoo91 that isn't right. If people are going to treat you like that where you're living at then maybe you should move. The justice system is obviously corrupt and broken too and unfortunately this is what happens to a lot of survivors who go through something like that. I don't refer to people like us as victims anymore. We are survivors.

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      • ShoobyDoobyDoo91

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        @ElizabethJune I hate that people think I'm making shit up or I wanted it etc. After that happened my world caught fire....I wasn't taking my meds I was being reckless sexaul wise and putting my life at risk. Idk how I'm still alive honestly....

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        • ElizabethJune

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          @ShoobyDoobyDoo91 you're not alone. I know the feeling. It's a miracle we are both alive and PTSD is really scary. I struggle with it too. Plus a lot of people who have never had it happen to them don't understand the extent of the psychological and emotional damage it does. I'm sure if someone who was blaming you had it happen to them they would feel differently and stop blaming you. Also you know what they say. Never judge or look down on someone who is struggling because one day you could find yourself in the same situation and that couldn't be more true. It's still not an experience I would even wish on my worst enemy though.

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    • Fallen_world

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      Hun, that's not your fault. What he did was awful, people shouldnt blame it on you.

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    • Kairi

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      I’m so sorry that happened it was NOT your fault at all

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      • ShoobyDoobyDoo91

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        @Kairi I feel like a waste of a person. Like I wanted to become someone with a purpose....now I'm disabled and a mess.

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      • ShoobyDoobyDoo91

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        @Kairi I feel like I could have ran but I was so scared. Then a year later my Papa mosteled me....again was it my fault? Like why why why!!

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