My Dad Regrets Marrying My Mom

I relate to this a lot I was 7 when I started realizing something was different with my parents that wasn't happening with the other kids. I can be really difficult to manage, hell I'm still working on it! Don't force your self to feel one way to appease someone else in this situation.. Trust me all it'll do is make those emotions worse, it'll build up to the point where you explode on someone, it happened with me and it can happen to you. Trust your gut and you'll make it through this,You've got this!! 👍👍

I was in the same situation, and I get that as a teen you don't feel like you could or should say much even tho you want to help, sometimes it is better to let him stay with her because of the kids, but a good idea would maybe be to talk to him and let him know that you know going on, and let him know your perspective, sometimes divorce seems like the better option, and in some cases it is but it's really hard to go through divorce and make it out Alive financially and mentally.

My parents in my eyes never got along.. He would make her cry every thanksgiving and refused to put up Christmas lights for Christmas then complain some more for Christmas dinner.. he never went to any of our school games and stuff and was absorbed in alcoholism and television. She would always complain to us kids about him. When I was about 10 or 11 maybe even younger I started telling my mom she and my dad needed to divorce. I was the youngest out the three of us and the only one to say it at the time. (My dad is an alcoholic who only stopped because he had a couple strokes) my mom never divorced him her exact reasoning was (why so he’ll get half of everything I worked for). Now he doesn’t even live with us because of his condition and she still says mean and nasty stuff about him. Yet they’re still married. Should they be? Absolutely not. No love there whatsoever even confirmed on my moms end to me while I was a teen. Yet still not divorced. I had been telling them to get a divorce for over a decade and my siblings started telling them as well. I then started asking them to legally separate. Just hearing all the bs come out of their mouths about each other to me as their child was annoying. Through that I’ve come to learn they’re going to do what they want tot do. Even if it makes zero sense in the long run. Out of it however I learned what I didn’t and did want out of a relationship and have been happily married for almost 10 years now. So, while they didn’t listen and won’t better themselves I made sure to take those experiences to my own life and change it completely. I really hope that helps. Sorry it’s so long.

It is not healthy for you or either of your parents to be in a house where they fight all the time. Sometimes parents do the wrong thing out of love and the best of intentions. You deserve to get the best of both of your parents wether they are together or not. My situation was a little different, but when k was in high school I pushed my dad to divorce my mom and left with him. He thought by waiting til my little brother left the house for college to divorce her he was doing the right thing for my brother and I. He didn’t see how their terrible marriage was affecting me until I explained to him how I was feeling. I’m happy to share more of my experience in DM’s if you want to talk or ask any questions.

You should not have to be put into this situation. Having gone through something similar you should talk to both parent s and let them know how this is making you feel if you are able that is. Sometimes parents need help doing the right thing and a marriage without love does not show a good depiction of a relationship to their children.