midnightdrives

308d

have you experienced some issues with feeling in relationships sometimes? i know that feelings come and go for me like i love my partner always but sometimes i think it’s hard to let myself feel that and it is so discouraging as someone with OCD and commitment issues due to parents divorce and trust issues due to past relationships, i trust my partner and feel fully safe and i love him so much, it just causes so many intrusive thoughts and i was wondering if anyone has any tips to combat this?

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

View all
  • second_johnny

    308d

    I think a very important step that you need to take is to accept uncertainty (if you haven’t done so already). To accept that there is a possibility for anything. Whenever I get intrusive thoughts, I find hard not to figure them out or to give into them, but when we do, it’ll only lead us into a deep rabbit hole of overthinking about something that hasn’t even happened. I’m sorry to hear about your past experiences with trust issues, that’s never a good thing for anyone. Especially someone with anxiety. Once you get passed the uncertainty (in this case with the feelings for your boyfriend) then you’ll begin to feel more confident and say that “thoughts are just thoughts”.

  • second_johnny

    308d

    I’m not sure if they made any sense, please let me know if there’s anything I can clear up on.

  • midnightdrives

    308d

    you absolutely did help, it’s nice to know i’m not alone in this, i’m not uncertain in my feelings for him, i know i love him it just sucks when your intrusive thoughts are making you feel like you’re not giving enough

  • Kat78

    278d

    Talk to your partner about it. My partner is still getting used to my mental issues and finds little ways to make sure I don't spiral. For example, if he's upset with something else and I happen to notice, he makes sure to lmk that it isn't my fault. Even in small ways like calling me my fav nicknames or ending his text with a heart emoji.

☝ This content is generated by our users and it is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Please consult with your physician before making any medical decision

Thank you! Your submission has been received!
Oops! Something went wrong while submitting the form.