jeb

192d

Managing my ADHD is almost impossible. If I miss or mess up one thing in my routine (that I can barely do in the first place) my whole day is ruined. It seems to just get worse and worse over the years. Then I get depressed over it and ruin another day. I'm constantly in a cycle of trying things to improve my life and health, and it seems neverending, because I can't ever finish or commit to anything. my life is flying by me while I can't focus on my life. I'm 40 and haven't accomplished anything. I never even thought I'd live past 40, but here I am and no where to go.

What are ways that everyone else out there uses to keep themselves motivated and going?

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Chronic Generalized pain

Attention-Deficit Disorder

Congestive Heart Failure (CHF)

Chronic Neurotic Disorders

View all
  • Deebee

    192d

    Sometimes I get like that too. I’m very much younger and what I say is probably something you’ve tried before, but sometimes when I get like that and things get hard, there’s like a couple of friends and people I care about, and everytime I’m around them i’m filled again. Sticking to things are a pain, I can never do anything twice. Sometimes I’ll do a job so I can feel forced to do something? And if you enjoy the environment, it can get you excited to do something for a while I have no clue if this helped, but I really do wish you the best of luck

    • jeb

      192d

      thanks! I probably should reach out to my friends more! Also something I probably forget 😂

  • psychbubbles

    192d

    I feel the exact same way. I'm starting to think I need a change of scenery. I need to get out of the city I live in and have grown up in. Because it's causing me to not get anywhere I'd thought or hoped Id be. But, I'm only 25 😅 i committed and accomplished academic goals like college but that was through sheer huperfocus and interest in my love for art and art making. It was therapeutic for my depression as well. But now I don't do anything with it!! Always been naturally gifted they said, I always made high marks and received distinction from my peers. But now all I do is work retail and pay bills to survive. For what? Idk how to be an entrepreneur because I don't know how to network and market the kind of stuff I enjoy making lol considering my co-morbidity w major depression I've never seen myself getting this far either and I'm still quite young... Find it hard to keep going

    • jeb

      192d

      ya I've always struggled with keeping going, honestly why I never thought I'd see 40! Life has gotten easier but harder at the same time. It's a paradox! I enjoy making art too! But sadly our culture doesn't value if like it deserves to be so we get shot down and have to work other jobs. I've been trying to focus so hard on making a living taking photos but it is day after day of obstacles. Ugh. Sorry I hope I didn't scare you about getting older! 😂

  • Shaba

    192d

    I feel the same way. I struggle to stay motivated

  • Sagan

    192d

    Commenting because man.. do I feel you on this but I'm late for bed and beyond tired. I'll be back soon to talk about this. This is my every day struggle.

  • Shaba

    192d

    I hope I can find people like me here with ocd adhd anxiety they have me feeling 😥

  • Drewsdad08

    192d

    I feel you. Every single day, I’m running scared that if mess one thing up or forget even unimportant things, that I’m a complete failure. I’m scatter brained always. I fly off the handle quite often and I beat myself up for it.

  • Nanaof2

    192d

    you found one🤗..I have OCD, ADD and anxiety and it's feels like the worst combination of medical issues to have. Having OCD everything has to be in order, if I don't stick to my everyday routine then my entire day seems "off" which causes my ADD to pop off becaue I can't focus on what I need to in order to feel like "I'm back on track" which them sets off the anxiety...I swear it's a vicious cycle.

    • Shaba

      192d

      wow you really get me that's what I do every day. I definitely am going to try the list if I can stay focused long enough to get it done 😊 sometime I don't know if it's the ocd adhd or anxiety they all with work against me

      • Nanaof2

        192d

        unfortunately they do all work against us, it really seems unfair to have all 3 of those at the sane time. I do make the lists and I know they sound silly but I literally make the list around the same time everyday, that way I can put all of the things I want to get done on that list and then I actually prioritize what I need to do 1st (not want to need to, which some don't really understand that). I've been doing the list things for years and it has helped me becaue when u write down all the things you need to do you eventually realize that if this one thing is not done, it's ok because you have a visual of all the other things that you have done. It's kinds feels like you have accomplished things. The OCD part of me is why the lists are done and then the order of what I need to do them in. It really is a viscous cycle and I do know what you are going through and how you are feeling. Just keep your head up and keep moving forward. If you feel yourself starting to slide some, then send me a message, and tell me what's going on even if you are angry and are yelling it....I won't take it personal and will be there for you to vent and be your sound board. You got this!

  • marty.t

    191d

    It's hard, but don't get to concerned about it. Remember, you are the one in control, use adhd like any other tool. Master it, use it, understand it. It's a weird and confusing tool, but if you know more about it and understand more and more. You will see that it can be more a blessing then a curse. There are gonna be times where it confuses you, but don't let that destabilize you. Take a breath, rest, come back, and see what new feature you discovered.

    • jeb

      191d

      oh wow that is a great idea! I'm like, "how have I not thought of that?" At least I haven't to that sort of extent! If you have any tips pertaining to that feel free to post here or message me! Thanks 🙏

☝ This content is generated by our users and it is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Please consult with your physician before making any medical decision

Thank you! Your submission has been received!
Oops! Something went wrong while submitting the form.