How to Stop Anxiety from Ruining My Relationship?

I give the voice a name and pretend it's like some annoying thirteen year old kind constantly goading me to get a reaction. For some reason thinking, "Shut up Timmy you haven't even shaved yet and you're talking about my relationship."

I'm speaking from an OCD mindset, but acknowledge and accept the thoughts. When you try to avoid the thoughts they only intensify. Try to avoid reassurance seeking behaviors (easier said than done so be kind to yourself in this process) because that also increases the anxiety.

It’s hard with situations like these because it depends on the relationship sometimes. If there has never been any reason at all whatsoever to be suspicious of him cheating or that he has intentions on leaving then I would say it’s the anxiety. Here’s tips for both: if you have any actual suspicions, go with your gut feeling and leave him. If you just are nervous because the way you’ve been treated by others in the past then work through that with him. If he is understanding and a good boyfriend he will want to work through that with you. You can try couples counseling. You can even find some print outs online. I suggest also going on more dates! Another thing I think is helpful is both of you taking “the 5 love languages” test. Maybe you’re not feeling as appreciated because of the way you feel loved vs. him. When you both find out through that online test it can also help a lot!! Also try and journal your feelings so when you’re ready to speak about them it’s easier to explain how you feel. You can send me a message and I can try and help you more with learning more of your situation! 💕xo