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CharlieGrayce

815d

I started a trauma PHP program yesterday and when I shared my experiences another patient in the group kept asking why I wasn’t reporting to the police. I tried to explain that it wasn’t something I could safely do and they told me that because I’m not reporting it’s my fault the abuse is continuing. Has anyone experienced anything similar? I’m trying not to let it get to me but I’m finding that I’m blaming myself for everything

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    • YoursTrulyNavy

      815d

      Oh, no no no no no. The abuse that happened to you is NOT YOUR FAULT. You didn’t ask for it. You didn’t deserve it. And regardless of whether you could report or not, this shouldn’t be happening to you at all. I understand what it’s like to blame yourself/be blamed for your own abuse, and I’m so sorry you were told that at your program. I know it’ll take more than an Internet stranger’s words to change your mindset, but just know that you’re not alone and that you are just trying to do your best. My IOP therapist told me, “The aftermath of the abuse is always the fault of the abuser.”

    • CharlieGrayce

      814d

      Thank you so much everyone. I’m feeling a little better about it today and am trying to remind myself that I made the right choices for myself at the time and that’s helping a little 💕

    • LexyTurtles

      815d

      Don't blame yourself or double think for a second. Not to sound harsh but that is ignorant of that one person to assume the world can be saved in 2 seconds that easy black and white from the cops. You are strong!! and sometimes all you have is yourself to get yourself out, feel better or process some thing sometimes. Don't worry about it ❤️

    • Messymexi

      815d

      Shouldn't there have been a therapist around? I would've brought it up to them because that other patients job is not too fix or concern herself with your life and she stepped over the line

    • YoursTrulyNavy

      815d

      Oh, no no no no no. The abuse that happened to you is NOT YOUR FAULT. You didn’t ask for it. You didn’t deserve it. And regardless of whether you could report or not, this shouldn’t be happening to you at all. I understand what it’s like to blame yourself/be blamed for your own abuse, and I’m so sorry you were told that at your program. I know it’ll take more than an Internet stranger’s words to change your mindset, but just know that you’re not alone and that you are just trying to do your best. My IOP therapist told me, “The aftermath of the abuse is always the fault of the abuser.”

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