mathlover98

146d

My bf got upset bc I've been venting too him a lot lately. I don't have anyone else I can vent to, but it's not fair to overwhelm him either. There are so many things that suck right now but he has been my rock so much so that he worries I am becoming dependent on him and lately have only been seeing him to vent. I want to do fun stuff with him but I just don't have the energy at the moment.

Depression

Anxiety (Including GAD)

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  • darkstarrynight

    146d

    Well, I would suggest finding a friend you can vent to, and listening to their venting, and you can vent to them back. I have a friend like this, so it's definitely possible.

  • melabeille

    146d

    Going through the same thing. I look forward to hearing others' advice.

  • mathlover98

    146d

    I'm working on getting a therapist but my timing is super tight rn

    • Goodie

      145d

      Telehealth is great and lots of therapist use it

  • beetusbby

    146d

    I was doing this and unloading on my bf (now husband) I found therapy is wonderful because you can not only vent, but soon discover why I got in to crazy cycles I was in and how to break them.

  • SmileySnail

    146d

    You can vent to me if you want - my last serious relationship before this one ended in part due to my partner taking on too much of the stress of trying to "fix me" so I understand not wanting to let a relationship suffer due to mental or chronic illness. My current partner is awesome and lets me figure out my struggles and supports me through them without trying to solve them himself, which is exactly what we both need I think

  • TannTann

    146d

    That’s kind of one of the things you’re supposed to be able to do when in a relationship. Be able to vent when you need to however much you need to and vice versa.

  • Flameember

    146d

    I've had that problem and am still working on it. The biggest thing to remember is that while yes he is your boyfriend and you should be able to talk about things that are concerning you, he is not your therapist. Something to keep in mind when talking with him about stuff is how much of this conversation is me venting to him instead of other conversations? Have I been letting him get his word in or even just letting him vent to me instead? What can we talk about that will help me get my mind off the things that I want to vent about that are admittedly trivial? If you have the resources and are willing to do so, it would be worthwhile looking into a therapist in some way. For me, I have a 45 minute session every 2 weeks. To help me stay on track of what I want to talk about and have addressed, I personally find that word vomiting into a journal or even just a memo on your phone then reading through it and doing bullet points under it of what your specific concerns are or things you want help understanding better. I also do mine either virtual or in person depending on what I need to do that day (I love to fold laundry while I rant, i talk with my hands and have adhd so it helps me stay focused)

  • Goodie

    145d

    Find yourself an individual therapist and it might take one or two trys

  • SpaceCat2000

    145d

    7cupsoftea.com

    • SpaceCat2000

      145d

      Super helpful for venting!!!

  • SmileySnail

    145d

    I use BetterHelp for therapy. Lots of therapists work extended or unique hours there, and you can always change out your therapist if you don't vibe with the first one. It works with my schedule (I can usually get sessions on weekends!). I know a lot of people rag on BetterHelp, but that was the only way I could see the therapist I wanted and it's worked well so far

  • CozyVibez

    145d

    Sometimes, finding someone else to vent at least some of those problems to to take the load off of him may make him feel less pressured.

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