Struggling with Therapy Trauma

A therapist should never share their own issues with a client/patient, if they did you have every right to complain. That is incredibly unprofessional, unless the person supporting you is a peer support worker or more of a community support worker they shouldn’t share anything personal. They also should not blame something else for your symptoms they should look into them instead. Also you have every right to request a new therapist or support worker, you need to find someone who fits what you need. Possible try looking for alternative therapies or counselling, it may help. Also I’m sorry that was your experience, I wish mh services were better.

There is a right therapist for everyone. It's hard and disappointing when you can't find the right fit, but I urge you to not give up. After years of trying to find the right therapist, I finally found mine. We clicked instantly and she supported me from the start. I followed her when she left the office we had sessions. And followed her when she opened her own practice. We have been on this journey for nearly 2 years now. We border the therapist but friend relationship, but it also doesn't feel weird. We have a very organic session environment where vulerability is encouraged. And because I followed her, I am paying 50 less than when I first began to see her. I guess what I am tryjng to say is that it does happen. I know it is scary, but you will know who the right one is for you and that feeling alone is amazing. Sending you love. I hope you find yours soon. ❤️

Have you tried a different therapy where you don't always have to start with heaps of talking? Another option maybe to take an activity into therapy so you don't have to look at anything else but your doodling pad. Art is meant to be quite helpful as a therapy.

I'm so so sorry you've had these experiences. I had many shitty therapists before I found a good one as well, but not as traumatic as your situation. All I can say is go at your own pace and trust your gut. If you start seeing someone and they don't feel safe, it's okay to ditch them. I promise there are genuinely good and helpful people out there. You might be able to get reccommendations of good therapists in your local area online or something like that. Above all, try to be gentle with yourself through this process 💜